Updated: Dec 2, 2018
I see many people talking about how people should practice self love without explaining what that means. I hear people say we should love ourselves without explaining how to do that. The worst is when I find makeup tutorials disguised as self-love videos. You can not learn to love yourself by doing your makeup.
You can’t start to love yourself by changing the way you look. You can’t start to love yourself by making enough money, buying expensive things, or earning an important job title. These things might feel good in the moment but they’re band aids on a deeper problem.
Self Love is NOT about
being better than anyone
being special in any way
trying to become worthy
feeling like you’ve achieved things
feeling like you haven’t made any mistakes
lowering your standards
Self Love IS
loving yourself no matter what you look like
knowing that you deserve to be healthy and happy
loving yourself no matter what you have
knowing that you have made mistakes, and that it’s ok
knowing that failure is a part of life for everyone, and that everyone has obstacles
knowing that you are free to forgive yourself even if others won’t forgive you
accepting yourself exactly where you are while striving for growth
It’s not about being entitled to an easy life or having things handed to you. It’s about having the courage to challenge yourself and not letting anyone tell you that you aren’t good enough to try. It’s about truly believing you deserve to be here and you deserve to participate in life in every aspect you want. It’s about wanting the best for yourself. It’s about respecting yourself, and wanting yourself to be happy, healthy, and fulfilled, and making the necessary effort to bring those things into your experience.