Updated: May 7, 2019
If you've ever looked yourself in the mirror and wished you looked like someone else or thought about how if you could only change a couple of things about yourself, be it your weight, your looks, or your bank account, you would finally be happy, then you are going to want to read the rest of this article.
For most of my life I was obsessed with the way I looked and how people perceived me because I thought that if I could just get hot enough people would like me. I thought that if I could lose enough weight I'd finally attract a guy who didn't treat me like crap. I thought that if I could just be perfect that people would want me around.
I was a pushover. I did so much for other people, at the expense of my time, energy, goals, money, and sanity. I only dated jerks, and I couldn’t understand why there were no good guys out there. All the friends I had, took advantage of me constantly. I gave thousands of dollars away to different people over the years who never re-paid me a penny. I even drove people around like I was a free taxi.
I was so tired of being taken advantage of, lied to, manipulated, and I was tired of hating myself. What I wanted more than anything was to be happy for once. I wanted to feel like I had some control in my life. I just didn’t know how to get it. I honestly wasn’t sure it was even possible. There were even times I thought the only way out of my miserable life was to kill myself. Yet, I’ve become living proof that there’s a much better way.
You CAN be happy. You CAN have control over your life, and you CAN stop being dragged around by toxic people.
My turning point was at the end of an abusive relationship. I had been dating this guy for about 9 months hoping that things would eventually get better but they only got worse. Every time I tried standing up for myself he would try to convince me that I was the one with the problem, and I believed him.
Until one day when realized that I would never let someone I love be treated the way he was treating me. I would never let someone talk to someone I love the way he talked to me. I would never let someone I love date a man like that. That’s when I realized that my problem, the reason I let people use me, the reason I gave my money, time, and energy away, the reason I was more afraid to hurt other people’s feelings than of letting them hurt me, was that I didn’t love myself. I didn’t treat myself with the same respect that I treat people I love.
I realized that how I feel about myself is the root of all my problems, and my potential success. It’s the root of all my misery and potential happiness.
That’s when I made it my mission to learn how to love myself.
What I learned was that you can’t love yourself by changing what’s on the outside. You have to do the deep inner work, heal your trauma, reprogram negative beliefs, and get a new, healthy perspective.
Now, no one takes advantage of me anymore. I attract people into my life who authentically care about me and make me feel loved and valued, and I can honestly say that I authentically like and love myself no matter what I look like, or what other people think of me.
A few years ago, I never thought I’d be the person I am today. I never even really understood how much pain I was in until I started feeling relief from it. I never believed I’d be so confident and stop measuring my value with my looks or how people perceived me.
I’m truly liberated, and I have made it my mission to help liberate you.