I used to be depressed when I was single on Valentines day, but I finally figured out why that’s complete bullshit.
Here’s 3 reasons why being single on Valentines Day is fucking amazing.
Having A Date Can Suck Just As Bad, If Not More.
We romanticize this shit but it’s not being with “someone” that we want… it’s being with the right person that we want… unless you’re a gold digger and you literally just want a gift or something… and finding the right person is a lot harder than it seems. Never mind just going on a bad date with some idiot you met on an app, but plenty of people are currently in a relationship with the wrong person. Dating the wrong person means you will be miserable most of the time while you’re with that person, and/or you’re doomed to break up soon enough.
So, yay someone bought you flowers on February 14th but at what cost?!
You are in good company
I’m pretty sure I’m not alone when I say that being single on Valentines day can make you feel like you’re the only one on the face of the planet who’s still single and that can only mean that no one will ever want you. The truth is shit tons of people are single right there with you, including me, and some really fucking intelligent, beautiful, inspiring people.
In fact…. People who are smarter, hotter, and more successful can have a harder time finding someone right for them because they are looking for someone who reflects what the have going on, someone amazing… but they have yet to find him or her while sifting through morons on Okay Cupid. They also might work a lot and don’t meet many new people.
You Can Be Yourself
When you’re dating or in a relationship you can very easily become focused on becoming what the object of your desire wants. Too many people are looking for the answer to “What women want” or “What men want” and trying to become that. Or they are infatuated with one specific person, and when she finds out he has a thing for blondes she makes a hair appointment. Or if he finds out she has a thing for Lambos he dumps a chunk of his savings into a rental. Or they’re in a relationship and he “compromises” so much that he doesn’t even recognize himself.
The obvious problem here is that when you become something you’re not to impress someone who doesn’t want you for you they don’t want you they want the character you’re playing… and we all want to be loved for who we really are.
So What Do You Do?!!!
Get to know yourself. Ignore everyone else in the world for a minute, and imagine the only person you have to impress is yourself, then ask yourself what you want in life. Who do you want to be? What do you have to do in order to have zero regrets on your death bed? Then make a plan and get it done.
When you’re the version of yourself that is authentic, and you can truly respect yourself, that is when you will find someone who reflects that true version of you. That is when you will find love that doesn’t blow up in your face. Best of all, while you’re on your journey you won’t give a shit about being single on Valentines day because you’re too busy loving life.